Hopeful monster

I am a monster! I am emotionally malformed and psychically misshapen. The combination of utter neglect and loving nurture in my childhood distorted me. I became a mutant, a monstrosity - appalling to witness, an omen of the evil to come. If you see me coming, run away! What I crave is intimacy, and yet …

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Timu Forest Academy

I'm not entirely sure what I thought our mission work among the Ik people would do for them. Probably I assumed that if we did X, Y, and Z, God would take care of the details. Providing them a translation of the New Testament in their mother tongue would, I believed, enable them to know …

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Cold empathy

People with degrees of narcissism may have what Sam Vaknin calls cold empathy. That is, though they do empathize, their empathy tends to be cold, calculated, and cognitive. They are keen observers and analysts of emotions - in themselves and others - but largely incapable of feeling them. They remain detached from emotional life, preferring …

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Low on fuel

I am a recovering (usually benign) narcissist. In order to keep going, narcissists need fuel. The fuel (aka 'supply') comes in the form of neurochemical highs induced by the ways others interact with the narcissist. These can be positive reactions as when the narcissist is attended to, admired, and adulated. Or they can be negative …

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Mind-job

Fundamentalist Christianity exhibits certain psychological dynamics that in other arenas of life are considered dysfunctional or even pathological. Successful evangelism entails convincing someone that a) there is something innately and inescapably wrong with them and b) that there is a single way to make right this essential wrongness. It's a matter of creating the problem …

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